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You Are Not a Doughnut
Not everybody needs to like you
“You’re not a doughnut — not everybody needs to like you.” *
This is honestly some of the best advice I’ve ever heard. I’ve been thinking about it a lot the last couple of days, ever since someone replied to a comment of mine bemoaning my supposedly negative attitude.
While I think making such a mean-spirited remark in the first place was quite hypocritical, she wasn’t wrong. I am quite dour. I’ve never been a happy little ray of sunshine and I never will be. And that’s okay.
I know that not everyone likes me. People find me abrasive because I say what I think. I’ve won no friends within the writing community because I’m open about the fact that I have standards and I’m not interested in reading articles that are riddled with grammatical errors. I’ve been told I’m a bad person because I don’t follow as many writers on social media as follow me.
I’m not going to pretend it doesn’t bother me when people take to their keyboards to tell me how much they dislike me personally based on a comment or an article. But then I remember, that I’m not a doughnut. It wouldn’t be normal if everyone liked me. I know I don’t like plenty of people.
